You Set The Tone Everyday – 10 tips to help keep things positive!
You’ve got the power! bamph… bamph bamph…bamph… (cue music!). You know the song and you know it’s true. For good or for bad, the principal sets the tone in a school everyday. You set it through your actions, or inactions. What you say or what you don’t say. All eyes are on you. If it feels like a lot of responsibility… well, it is.
You’ve heard the saying: “With great power comes great responsibility”. Don’t ever forget that, because it is so true. If we were to go out and study all the great schools that are succeeding, almost always you will find out that there is a positive principal at the helm.
If you’re having a bad day, it’s almost guaranteed that the ones around you will have a bad day.
- You can’t be inconsistent or “up and down”. I know it’s hard. I know sometimes people around you mess up. I know some people don’t seem to care. I know there are rude people in the world. I know sometimes parents are worse than the students. It doesn’t matter. YOU have to be the calming voice. You have to be the voice of reason!
- Wait and wait some more. – In this case, it’s one of the only times when waiting is wonderful. Count to ten, then count ten more if you need to. Only when you’re composed and calm should you say anything. Words are like toothpaste in the tube. Once they’re out, they’re out.
- Think before you speak. – If you’ve waited and you still can’t think of anything positive to say, then don’t say anything. Sometimes silence says more than your words ever could.
- Say Thank you. – Say it and really mean it. It takes little effort on your part, but means the world to the people around you. They need to know that you care. Just remember that you couldn’t do it without their help. Be humble.
- If you’re not good at being grateful, find someone to help you! – One of the things I’ve learned about myself, is that everyone is not like me. I expect people to do their job. I don’t need a lot of thanks (though even I need a little), but thankfully, I’ve learned. People need to feel appreciated. People who feel appreciated are happier and more productive. Happiness spreads happiness. I realized that I am not as naturally appreciative as I could be, so I enlisted the help of my secretary, guidance counselor, or co-worker who really enjoyed making people feel good. I gave them the task of keeping my “thank you” and appreciate events up-to-date. Know your strength and weaknesses and get help in those areas where you need it. You can’t be great at everything.
- Don’t be mean – The day-to-day challenges and the sometimes obvious (to you) poor decision-making that you have to deal with can make the most patient person sometimes become “snarky”. Don’t do it. Treat people with respect – at all times. You can lose the respect and good will of your staff when you lash out. It only takes a minute to really hurt feelings and damage the good will that you’ve built up with people.
- Don’t make it personal. – See above. Good people can make poor decisions. Just because someone is not doing the best job, it’s your job to find out how to maximize their strengths and talents. They are fellow humans who deserve your respect. No matter if you’re correcting, congratulating, guiding, etc… treat people professionally.
- Set the Example. – Ultimately YOU have to set the example in your school. All eyes are on you to see how you deal with difficult situations. A tough situation can be turned into a triumph and a learning experience for all.
- Be Real – You don’t have to be perfect. – People don’t follow leaders who are perfect. A good leader allows those around him or her to realize that mistakes happen. How you deal with everyday mistakes sets the tone for the whole organization. Do you allow the mistakes to derail your progress or do you use them as learning experiences to help grow as professionals.
- Be careful of how you handle when people who work for you make mistakes. Be even more careful of how you handle when YOU make mistakes. Be humble… I’ve said that before. You have a “bank account of good will” as the leader of a school. You want to consistently deposit into that account by showing appreciation, getting to know your staff personally, and dealing with mistakes in a calm, caring and professional manner. People should never worry that you will “blow up”. You never know when you will need to depend on your staff to help when you have made a mistake. CARING IS EVERYTHING. A true caring attitude can help fix a lot of mistakes.
Teaching and working with kids is a tough job in today’s atmosphere (not that it’s ever been easy), but having a solid, reliable, and positive person as the leader of a school makes everyone’s job easier.